How to Pick the Perfect Sex Toy for Your G-Spot

As you may have noticed by now, I’m a big fan of the g-spot. Sure my clit is great for quick burst orgasms– the kind of wham-bam-thank-you-ma’am sort of play that is perfect when I’m in a rush or just feeling lazy- but for my body it’s all about internal play.

Let’s start with a quick anatomy refresher shall we? The g-spot is a sensitive area of tissue located about 3 inches inside the vaginal canal along the anterior wall (towards the belly button). The jury is still out on what exactly causes this area to be so sensitive but many believe they are stimulating the urethral sponge (which surrounds the urethra), or the internal legs of the clitoris. Naturally, in either case, it’s going to require some real pressure to transmit sensation into these deeper areas of the body which is why not all toys will be able to do the job.

When you’re out there looking for your g-spot’s new best friend there are a few major things to consider:

Material

It’s more than the basic concerns about safe materials here, you also need to make sure that the toy is going to be able to provide the right sort of pressure on your g-spot. Think about what it’s like to rub someone’s shoulders- that’s the same pressure you’re going to want to apply to your g-spot, and a floppy toy probably isn’t going to cut it.

For intense g-spotting your ideal materials are going to be stainless steel, glass, wood, or stone. Products made of these materials aren’t going to flex under pressure so you’ll be able to direct sensation exactly where you want it. They also all feature mirror smooth surfaces which make insertion a breeze. This comes particularly in handy if you’re using a toy with a round or bulbous head shape (see more below)- you may be able to insert more than you expected.

Stainless steel and stone products are going to have a lot of weight to them and will be able to provide pressure almost on their own whereas glass and wooden toys will need more direction but will be much less exhausting to wield.

Firm silicone, like that on toys from Tantus, may also work if it has the right shape, but even then it could be tricky to get the pressure you need. Silicone does have one thing going for it though, and that is friction! A silicone toy with a lot of drag,1 particularly one with a glossy surface, is going to tug at the vaginal wall in the g-spot area, providing a different and less intense sensation. This is great for people who are overwhelmed with more pressure or those who find firmer toys grind into their pubic bone.

Curve

Considering the location of the g-spot, it makes sense that a perfectly straight sex toy isn’t even going to touch it, which then explains why many of the most iconic g-spot toys out there feature a drastic curve. Obviously there’s a reason they’re so iconic, and it’s true, they do work wonders, but not for everyone.

For some, this drastic curve finds a way of hooking behind their pubic bone and bumping or grinding uncomfortably against it during any sort of movement. Explore your g-spot with your fingers and see where the pubic bone sits in relation to it, if it protrudes towards your vaginal opening and is sensitive to prodding you might be at risk for this sort of scenario. In that case, consider something with a shallower curve and maybe a more pronounced head shape or softer material.

Head Shape

There are a number of head shapes out there designed for g-spotting and although some tend to be more popular, it really comes down to knowing your body to know what will work for you.

Realistic: Realistic toys with a pronounced coronal ridge (and preferably some curve) work great for gentler g-spot stimulation. Typically this is a design you will see on soft materials like silicone which makes it perfect for providing surface level g-spot play. The ridge nudges and catches the sensitive area and the grip of the material tugs gently at it. The more pronounced that coronal ridge is, the more g-spot attention you can expect from it.

Curved: Sometimes simple can be powerful and a toy with nothing more than a curved end can give you the flexibility to put it where you want it and target the g-spot wonderfully. Unfortunately, a toy with nothing more than a curved tip can also indicate a laziness to the design that speaks to only the most basic idea of anatomy. In this case the toy may provide unfocused g-spot sensation or miss it entirely.

Flat: Some g-spot toys feature a broad, flat head that is really able to focus in and stimulate the g-spot and nothing else. These toys can target the g-spot easily and provide comfortable pressure but often don’t protrude as far as round or bulbous shapes which makes their sensations less intense than those counterparts but still more-so than a realistic toy.

Round: Toys with rounded heads feature a rounded ball at the end of the toy. Often times the shaft becomes much more slender almost instantly past the bulb which means you will feel sensation on the g-spot and no-where else. This makes toys with round heads fantastic for identifying the g-spot and providing focused pressure but they run the risk of being too intense for some people. It is also common to notice a popping sensation during insertion and removal due to the shape of these toys.

Bulbous: Toys with bulbous heads swell gently as they reach the head, it may be a long, thin bulge or it may be slightly more rounded but not perfectly spherical like in a round headed toy. While this shape does have the benefit of focusing attention on the g-spot, the more gradual transition between shaft and head reduces the likelihood that these toys will “pop” upon insertion and removal. The more gradual the bulge, the less focused the g-spot pressure will be, allowing the toy to cover a wider area of the anterior wall.

Pointed: Occasionally I see toys designed for g-spotting that actually curve and come to a point. I tend to avoid these, once pressure is applied with them that point can feel awfully pokey, or even like it’s scraping along the wall of my vagina. While I have spoken to people who enjoy this shape for pinpoint clitoral stimulation, I find that g-spot toys need at least the width of a finger or two to be comfortable.

Vibration?

As you are probably already familiar, most vibrations fall somewhere on a scale between buzzy and rumbly based on how deeply they penetrate the surface they vibrate against. Since rumbly vibrations penetrate deeper than buzzy people often choose powerful and rumbly toys in order to reach the g-spot if they choose to incorporate vibration into g-spot play.

On the other hand, I find many people prefer their g-spotting sans vibration as they either find vibration to be distracting or just not all that interesting. Luckily, if this happens to be the case with you, you can just turn any g-spot vibrator off and have a great g-spot dildo! It is for this reason that I firmly believe the shape of the toy to be much more important than any sort of motor it may sport when that toy is designed for g-spotting.

Still confused? Feel free to reach out– I’d love to help you find something that will work for you!

1. If you slide a piece of silicone across your skin and it tugs at it, or gets stuck like it’s going over speed bumps that toy has drag. [↩]