Negotiation is tricky, I can’t count the number of times I’ve been in the middle of a scene and had a question come to mind that I didn’t have the answer to. What should I call you? Are you going to hit me where I really want? Can I kiss …

 There are a million reasons to love sexting, not least of which being the fact that you can be sexy without changing out of your pajama pants. As a person who was in a long distance relationship for quite a while, a huge portion of the sex I was having …

Sex positive, education focused retail boutiques often market themselves as welcoming to women, a clean well lit environment designed to be the antidote to basement porn shops with sticky floors.1 Since it’s so rare to see a space catering specifically for women, in my experience men were often left wondering …

Nearly one year ago, on May 30th, 2017, I took my first shot of Testosterone, it was the beginning of my medical transition, though not the beginning of my complicated relationship with my gender. To celebrate my one year on HRT I’m going to be sharing a different post each …

Nearly one year ago, on May 30th, 2017, I took my first shot of Testosterone, it was the beginning of my medical transition, though not the beginning of my complicated relationship with my gender. To celebrate my one year on HRT I’m going to be sharing a different post each …

Nearly one year ago, on May 30th, 2017, I took my first shot of Testosterone, it was the beginning of my medical transition, though not the beginning of my complicated relationship with my gender. To celebrate my one year on HRT I’m going to be sharing a different post each …

Nearly one year ago, on May 30th, 2017, I took my first shot of Testosterone, it was the beginning of my medical transition, though not the beginning of my complicated relationship with my gender. To celebrate my one year on HRT I’m going to be sharing a different post each …

A Yes/No/Maybe list is a common tool in kink circles for negotiating scenes, but really, you could use it to negotiate… pretty much anything. It’s simple, each person involved in the negotiation takes a list of activities/terms/food items etc. and sorts each one into one of three columns: Yes, No, …

Let’s talk about touch. Not just about the way a hand feels around your cock, or the way a lover’s lips feel at the base of your neck. Let’s talk about how it feels to be held by someone who cherishes every minute they get to spend with you, the …

Conferences are a little bit like magic. They’re this tiny pocket of time that feels divorced from our reality, a little bubble of kinetic energy where we spend our days having conversations we can’t have anywhere else, and our nights feeling profoundly close to people we’re lucky to see twice …

From selfies, to Facebook, to ruining… well… everything, millennials are often depicted as a fickle, fragile, and juvenile generation. Despite our youthful reputation, many millennials are approaching or in their 30s and the majority of us have spent a decade or more building relationships. While those relationships are, at their …

I’ve always known I was kinky, before I was fantasizing about sex I was fantasizing about power. I’d lay in my Looney Toons tent and imagine fighting and grappling, elaborate manhunts, being overpowered or, against all odds, taking control. Once I began to explore the world of kink I, like …

Here I was thinking we could have a nice, simple post go up this week, maybe I’d finally get around to reviewing my current favorite dick, but then some people decided to be shitheads and now I guess we’re talking about gender again. I’m not going to unpack all of …

Hi Bex, Lately I’ve been feeling unattractive, a combination of self esteem/image issues and the fact that I can’t take a decent selfie to save my life. I worry that most of what I have to offer a potential partner is in how I act and what I say, but …

Despite what your high school sex ed teacher may have taught you, condoms are for a lot more than just bananas and intercourse. Infections don’t care, and can grow just as happily in the mouth or throat as they can in a vagina or anus, any moist mucus membrane is …