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I spend a lot of time on online dating sites, and I get a lot of messages. I answer something around 20% of them. The internet has given us access to a nearly infinite supply of potential suitors, and if you want to actually meet someone, you’re going to have …

I really love sexting. From exploring in internet chat rooms as a teenager to my current LDR, I think it’s probably safe to say that the majority of my sexual experiences have been digital. In all of my digital dalliances, I’ve seen how sexting can go very right (shout out …

First dates are weird, they’re awkward. You’re sitting alone with someone you barely know, drink in hand, trying to decide if you want to get all up close and naked with them. For me, this is honestly one of the most stressful environments around. Public speaking? Fine, I own the …

My Sir lives more than 12k miles away from me, so, as you might imagine, sexting is a pretty vital part of our relationship. That said, the cocktail of gender dysphoria and insecurities brewing in my brain mean I’m not always in the right headspace to send him nudes every time …

I’m pulled over a cute boy’s knee, moments after our first kiss while he tentatively spanks me. “You know” he says in between smacks “I don’t usually do this, I tried it once before and it wasn’t really my thing, but you’re just so good at receiving it makes it …

As you may have noticed by now, I’m a big fan of the g-spot. Sure my clit is great for quick burst orgasms– the kind of wham-bam-thank-you-ma’am sort of play that is perfect when I’m in a rush or just feeling lazy- but for my body it’s all about internal …

I talk a lot about the lack of regulation in our industry and the need for consumers to educate themselves on what they’re buying. Toxic and porous sex toys flood the market, and they can be mislabeled without any consequence. It is our responsibility as consumers to educate ourselves about what we …

I do a lot of writing about safe vs. unsafe toys, touting my favorite materials as “body safe” and decrying all others as toxic, dangerous, and to be avoided. What I’ve realized though, is that much of the time I talk about these things as if it’s something you already …

It’s only a little over a week until Catalyst Con which means sex geeks everywhere will be making their annual pilgrimages to Washington DC, sex toys, lube, and safer sex products in tow. Some people, like myself for example, will making an epic road trip and have the luxury of …

If you are a person who is sexually active it is a good idea to consider creating a safer sex1 kit. A safer sex kit is a portable kit that should be easily accessible to you whenever you are in a situation that may become sexual. Ideally it would be …