Negotiation is tricky, I can’t count the number of times I’ve been in the middle of a scene and had a question come to mind that I didn’t have the answer to. What should I call you? Are you going to hit me where I really want? Can I kiss …

A Yes/No/Maybe list is a common tool in kink circles for negotiating scenes, but really, you could use it to negotiate… pretty much anything. It’s simple, each person involved in the negotiation takes a list of activities/terms/food items etc. and sorts each one into one of three columns: Yes, No, …

Conferences are a little bit like magic. They’re this tiny pocket of time that feels divorced from our reality, a little bubble of kinetic energy where we spend our days having conversations we can’t have anywhere else, and our nights feeling profoundly close to people we’re lucky to see twice …

I’m pulled over a cute boy’s knee, moments after our first kiss while he tentatively spanks me. “You know” he says in between smacks “I don’t usually do this, I tried it once before and it wasn’t really my thing, but you’re just so good at receiving it makes it …