Bex Caputo is a Philadelphia-based sex educator, speaker, and podcaster. He’s been speaking professionally about sex and kink and conferences, colleges, and sex shops all along the east coast for the past 6 years, and has been a loud-mouthed, sex-positive kinkster since long before that. Bex’s teaching style prioritizes inclusivity, accessibility, harm-reduction, and humor. He uses storytelling to engage the audience, and metaphors and pop culture references to break down complex topics into digestible concepts.
While Bex has written and spoken about a wide variety of topics in sex and kink over the years, his passion lies in nerdy, nuanced conversations of kink and sexual communication. He loves discussing the psychological benefits of subspace, musing over the spiritual significance of D/s dynamics, and unpacking the intricacies of why that thing is so hot–and then figuring out how to ask for it!
Bex has experience teaching events ranging from intimate gatherings to large crowds both in-person and online. For more details on how to book Bex for your conference, event, or organization please visit our contact page or email BexTalksSex (at) gmail (.) com.
Bex is one of the best sex educators that I have seen speak in recent years. He truly engages the crowd in a way that is accessible and relatable for folks who are complete beginners on the topic, all the way to experts in the field. His language is wholly inclusive and non-assumptive, and he conveys knowledge in a way that is light-hearted and humorous without losing any ounce of authority that he holds in their skill.
– Lisa, Babeland Event Coordinator
Current Offerings:
Everything They Didn’t Teach You In Sex EdIf you are one of the few lucky to have gotten any sex ed in school at all, you might have learned about fallopian tubes and how to put a condom on a banana, but it’s unlikely you find yourself turning back to what you learned in health class during your sex life as …
Bangin’ BJs for All BodiesJoin us for this trans-inclusive blowjob workshop that's designed to take your oral skills to the next level! We’ll start with a pleasure focused anatomy lesson that I guarantee will be much more interesting than the one you got in high school. Then we’ll get into the dirty details to discuss hand and mouth …
Better Bottoming For SubmissivesWhether you’re a masochistic power bottom or a shy service slut, you know bottoming requires skill–skill that’s rarely recognized, acknowledged, or taught. Written specifically for s-types who want to broaden their knowledge base, this two-hour workshop includes my best tips for both new and experienced submissives alike.We'll start by discussing the responsibilities of every …
Beautifully Bruised Booties (and Other Bits)An Intro to Impact Play Whether you’re cruisin’ for a bruisin’ or looking to pull your favorite little slut over your knee for a spanking – preparing for an impact scene from either side of the slash can be intimidating. Luckily, this workshop covers everything you need to know to get started! From bare …
Write It Better Than You’ve Ever Felt ItThis workshop starts by answering everyone’s biggest sexting question: “What should I even say???” First, I'll arm you with some simple prompts to get those sexy ideas flowing, before moving on to incorporating detail and brushing up the language to ensure your sexts stand out in the crowd. Next, I’ll share my best tips …
Bois, Bimbos, and Bad BitchesAn Intro to Online Sex Work for Queers As a trans masc porn performer I know what it's like to go looking for advice only to find nothing that feels like it's actually written for me. That is why I'm drawing on my 4+ years of experience performing as Billy Lore to bring you …
Bex Talks Sex Starting the Conversation
